Becoming Her: Finding Your Identity Again After Postpartum Depression, Anxiety, and Rage with Alexis Schmittler
Motherhood can be something you prayed for deeply—and still leave you wondering, “Where did I go?”
In this conversation, Alexis opens up about her experiences with postpartum anxiety, depression, and rage after the births of her two children, including the moment she realized she needed to tell her husband what was really going on and reach out for professional help.
We talk about the pressure to “bounce back,” the grief that can come with becoming a new version of yourself, mom guilt, social media comparison, and what it looks like to find your identity again—not by becoming who you were before motherhood, but by allowing God to shape who you're becoming.
Inside this episode, you'll learn:
Recognizing when postpartum struggles have gone beyond a hard day and having the courage to tell someone what's really going on.
Postpartum anxiety, depression, and rage—and why moms need to know these experiences are real and deserve support
Letting go of the pressure to “get back” to who you were before motherhood and making space for the woman you're becoming.
Finding your identity outside of motherhood through small moments of rest, creativity, movement, Scripture, prayer, and things that help you feel like yourself again.
Mom guilt and social media comparison, and learning to recognize the difference between reality and the highlight reel.
Walking through postpartum mental health challenges with faith, including seeking therapy and professional support while also praying and relying on God.
One thing I want every mom to remember
You can love your children deeply and still find motherhood hard.
Those two things can be true at the same time.
If you're struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety, rage, or feeling like you've lost yourself, asking for help does not make you a bad mom. You deserve support, and you don't have to walk through a difficult season alone.
Alexis also shares a beautiful reminder from her own journey: “I've lived to testify.” What you've walked through may eventually become part of the story God uses to encourage someone else.
About Alexis
Alexis is the author of Becoming Her, a book about motherhood, identity, postpartum mental health, and finding yourself again through the transition into motherhood. After experiencing postpartum anxiety, depression, and rage, Alexis began openly sharing her story to help other moms feel less alone and create more honest conversations around the realities of motherhood.
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You can find Alexis and learn more about Becoming Her through her social media channels and purchase the book on Amazon.
Follow her on Instagram: @alexis.schmittler.01
Purchase Becoming HER: A Journey of Faith, Motherhood, and Finding Myself Again
A question for you...
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Want More Support in the Postpartum Season?
Motherhood was never meant to be lived alone.
If you're looking for a Christ-centered community where you can bring both your practical questions and your spiritual struggles, I'd love to invite you to join the Postpartum on Purpose Community.
Each week we gather to study Scripture, pray together, worship, encourage one another, and renew our minds with God's truth. It's a place where you can be honest about the challenges of motherhood while continually being pointed back to Jesus with biblical encouragement, practical wisdom, and supportive community.
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