How to Create Your Village After You Give Birth

When I got pregnant with my first, eight of my friends were pregnant at the SAME TIME! I felt completely confident that I had a village! We would have baby playdates, take walks in the park, and text during night feeds. Little did I know that we would all be sleep-deprived and unable to practically support one another with meals or help with the baby. Walking with other moms at the same stage is incredibly valuable, but your village can’t consist solely of those at the same stage of life.

Being a new mom is one of the toughest gigs out there. The sleepless nights, the endless feedings, the emotional rollercoaster 🎢– it’s a lot. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to do it alone. Creating your village is essential to navigating this new chapter.

In this blog post, you’ll learn

• Who to add to your village

• How to find local mom groups

• Thinking outside of the box to create your village

Family and Friends: Your First Line of Defense

Let’s start with the obvious – family and friends. These are the people who love you unconditionally and want to help. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for specific support. Whether it’s a home-cooked meal, a few hours of babysitting, or just someone to talk to, let them know what you need. Remember, they want to help, and sometimes they just need a little direction on how to do so.

Postpartum Providers: Your Professional Support Team

Next up, postpartum providers. This includes lactation consultants, pediatricians, therapists, and, yes, postpartum doulas like myself. These professionals are here to support your physical and emotional well-being. Don’t hesitate to book that consult call, ask questions, and use their expertise to make your transition smoother. Trust me, having a professional on your side can make all the difference.

Local Mom Groups: Finding Your Tribe

Local mom groups are another fantastic resource. Whether you find them through social media, local community centers, or parenting websites, these groups offer a sense of camaraderie and shared experience. 

So many moms have created local communities sharing all the best kids’ events, playgrounds, and more in your area. Search Google or social media with keywords like Kids in (Your City Here). 

Check out your local library or community bulletin boards for meetups and events. 

Some of my favorite local groups that have chapters all over the country include:

• The Mom Walk Collective

• The MomCo

Church: Leaning on Your Faith Community

If you’re part of a church, don’t overlook the support they can offer. From meal trains to prayer groups, these communities can provide both practical help and emotional support. Join a small group or create your own!

Hobbies: Connecting Through Shared Interests

Don’t forget about your hobbies. Whether it’s a book club, a knitting group, or returning to your gym membership, continuing with your interests can provide a much-needed sense of normalcy and joy. Plus, it’s a great way to meet other moms who share your passions. These connections can become a vital part of your village, offering both social interaction and allowing you to remember who you were before you became a mom.

Thinking Outside the Box: Creative Ways to Build Your Village

Lastly, think outside the box. Maybe there’s a local business offering postpartum fitness classes, or a neighborhood group hosting potlucks. Online communities and virtual support groups can also be a lifeline, especially if you’re in a more remote area or during times when in-person meetings aren’t feasible. Get creative and look for support in unexpected places.

Start Your Own

If you’re having a hard time finding a group in your area, start your own! You can start a chapter of an established group or create a group based on your interests. You’ll never know unless you try. 

Ready to Build Your Village?

Now that you have a roadmap, it’s time to take action. Building your village isn’t just a nice-to-have – it’s a necessity. As a postpartum doula, I’m here to help you create the support system you need to thrive in this new chapter of your life.

Feeling overwhelmed? Let’s chat. Book a consult call with me, and together we’ll tailor a plan that fits your unique needs and helps you build the village you deserve.

☀️You’ve got this, and I’m here to help every step of the way.

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